The Sweet Hive
"If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude." - Maya Angelou
I’m a recovering control freak. Okay, okay….let’s be honest here, I’m still a work in progress.
I thrive in order, planning and organization, but let’s be real, perfection doesn’t exist, so there are many days where bumps in the road dismantle my perfect plans.
There are also days where I’ve worked out, journaled and listened to all the worship music only to meet a rude person and have their vibes try to steal my joy.
What do you do when your plans fall through? How do you react when rude people cross your path?
It’s not easy, is it? However, did you know we can still have control in situations that are out of our control? Yep, that’s right. So, if you are a control freak like me, you still have power to control something, and that is YOU my friend.
We’ve heard the saying, “You can’t control anything or anyone, but you can control your actions and your attitude.”
Sure, that sounds simple enough, but it’s hard as heck – well, at least for me it can be.
A week ago I was running on little sleep and I was experiencing a sudden surge in anxiety. All I wanted to do was lay in bed and give in to the tiredness. And I did exactly that. I grabbed my blanket, turned on Netflix and laid down. Three seconds later, that little voice reminded me of what I try to teach my daughter: “You can only control your actions and YOUR attitude.”
Please little voice go away!
It stayed there and it reminded me how our kids don’t always listen to what we say, they listen to what we do. So, I got up, folded the blanket, and turned on my Tone It Up app and worked out.
You see working out helps me battle my anxiety. "Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. Happy people just don't…. (you know the rest). – Elle Woods
After 30 minutes of lifting weights, crunches, and squats, I was back to myself and was even dare I say – cheerful!?
I know exercising isn’t a solution to everyone, but for me, it’s a big tool I use to help me especially in moments like the one I experienced that day.
Today, I want to remind you that you are in control of your actions and YOUR attitude. I’m not saying it’s going to be easy, but maybe just by reading this, you’ll have that little voice in your ear the next time you want to be mean or give in to the struggle.
Maybe it means stepping out for a walk (which by the way is so helpful).Maybe it means turning on your favorite song and singing out loud, so you forget that which was bothering you. Have a dance party in your kitchen or head over to Target to walk the aisles to destress your mind. Whatever works for you friend!
Cheering you on always….
Your friend and fellow dreamer,
Hello friends! Here we are at the tail end of January and I wanna know: Are you keeping up with your New Year’s Resolutions/Goals?
If you have, that’s amazing! Aye! Go ahead and pat yourself on your back.
If you haven’t, that’s OK too! Give yourself some grace. Don’t feel bad, you can pick back up today.
I know what it’s like to feel proud to stay consistent, but I also know what its like to start well and end up stopping and quitting along the way. Don’t let one bad day hold you back. Like I mentioned before, you can pick back up today and start.
As many of you know, I celebrated another birthday at the beginning of this week. It was a nice, quiet, and intimate celebration with my little family. It was perfect. However, getting older stopped being something I look forward to ever since I turned 21.
Am I the only one?
Getting older just reminds me that I’m getting up there in age and my “prime” is over, or at least that is what I use to think.
I’m not sure how old you are, but I wonder, do you ever feel like your age holds you back? What I mean is, do you think because you are X years old that means you won’t be able to go after your dream, lose the weight, get married, have children, go back to school or move to another state?
On January 20 (Inauguration Day) I saw some amazing performances. One of the performances that stood out to me was from Jennifer Lopez. Now, while I know she is not the best singer in the world, I was proud to see a fellow Latina perform. I was also very proud of her. You see, I grew up seeing Jennifer Lopez as a Fly Girl on In Living Color to seeing her acting career take off as she starred in Selena, to launching into a music career, clothing line and perfume line. She hasn’t always been my favorite artist, but I have supported her movies, music and products.
At the beginning of 2020, Jennifer Lopez was 50 years old and landed the performance at the Super Bowl. 50 years old! Recently she launched her beauty line and as I mentioned above, she performed at the Presidential Inauguration at age 51.
As I saw her performing that day, I couldn’t help but feel so inspired by her. She hasn’t let her age define her career or her goals for that matter. And while she may not win Grammys or Oscars, she keeps creating. She keeps going.
You don’t have to be the “best” or win all the awards to do BIG things, but you have to keep going because you never know what kind of opportunities will open their door to you. Furthermore, age should never stop you from living. As I sit here, I’m officially 37 years old. It could be so easy to think I’m only getting older; I should settle for security. No way! Look at JLo, she’s getting some of the best opportunities of her life at age 50! And for the record, she still looks bomb! Keep taking care of your body, soul and mind. It’s never too late.
To further encourage you:
- Abraham was 100 years old and Sarah was 90 years old when they had their first son, Issac.
- Moses was 80 years old when God ordered him to lead Israel out of Egypt.
- Noah was 500 years old when he began building the ark, which took over 100 years to complete.
So, embrace your age, season, and stage in life, but don’t forget to continue to take care of yourself and pursue that which fuels you. You don’t have to be the “best” to secure amazing opportunities either.
Stay encouraged and keep going…..
Your friend and fellow dreamer,